Back when I was a student at university I took a summer holiday job at a pop up retail stand in a shopping centre. On this particular day I was working with a girl that I’d never met before. We were tasked with going out into the crowd of shoppers to entice them to come and buy off our stand.
Towards the end of the day my colleague called me over to our stand and with a look of disbelief on her face. She shared with me that her purse was missing from her handbag. As I quickly rummaged through my handbag I realised mine has disappeared too. We locked eyes as we realised both of our purses had been stolen.
We searched for a security guard, who was frankly unhelpful. We asked to see if there was CCTV, which there wasn’t.
I grabbed my phone and made the appropriate calls to cancel my bank cards. I then returned to doing my job on the retail stand. But a few minutes later my colleague dropped a bombshell on me.
She accused me of being the person who had stolen the purses! My heart sank with the weight of a lead balloon in a way that I still remember to this day, over 25 years later!
Honesty and integrity are so important to me that her accusation was like a knife through my heart. How could she possibly accuse me of this?!
It turns out the reason she began to suspect me was how calmly I responded to the situation. My resilience in being able to respond quickly and calmly. My ability to let go of what I couldn’t control and focus on what I could, were all interpreted by her as ‘suspicious’.
And you know what? Before having children I was incredibly resilient. I could cope with setbacks in life with relative ease. I’ve even taken this skill and worked alongside Olympic athletes and Olympic Sports Psychologists teaching and coaching people in the skills of mental toughness and resilience.
But after having my children something changed. My resilience began to wane – it wasn’t as accessible to me when I needed it most. Can you relate?
I started to struggle to cope with all the small things; the spilt drink, the look from a stranger when my toddler was having a meltdown, my child not eating the meal I’d just cooked for them. It was like death by a thousand papercuts.
To begin with, I beat myself up. What happened to the strong woman I used to be?
Then I got curious. I wanted and needed to understand what had changed? And over the last 8 years I’ve developed a ferocious interest in the topic of resilience for mothers.
And I’ve got a lot to share on the topic. Some of it might surprise you.
So if you find that your resilience has been tested in motherhood – and let’s face it whose resilience hasn’t over the last 12 months – then you might want to check out what I’ve got to say on the subject of resilience in motherhood. I think you’re going to like it!
Come join me for my free 7 Days To More Resilience Experience
Starting on Monday 10th May I’ll give you practical insights to boost your resilience as a working mum. Each day for 7 days you’ll receive an email with a quick and easy insight to try out.
This is for you if you’re a mum who’s been tested to your limits the last year. You want to feel more resourced to respond to the ups and downs of your life, to be empowered to navigate the journey ahead and ready to thrive after one hell of a year!
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