I remember the first time I heard this and it was like a knife through my heart.

“As the mother is, so is the family.”

I was working really hard to be a good mother.

I was trying to be the perfect mother.

So I’d fallen into the trap of sacrificing myself to be the mother I thought I needed to be.

I worked really hard to be everything to everyone, thinking that this was the right thing.

But I’d overlooked the impact this had.

I was the martyr – it was ok if I felt tired and overstretched each day as long as I’d done my best to be a good mother, right?

I was overlooking an important truth.

The mother is often the leader in the family.

Our children don’t just listen to what we say, they are watching what we do.

And it was like a knife through the heart to realise that all my hard work was actually hurting my family.

My children were watching me become depleted.

They were experiencing me becoming resentful and irritable.

It was then that I realised the role model I was being.  As Glennon Doyle says so powerfully in her book Untamed:

What a terrible burden for children to bear—to know that they are the reason their mother stopped living. What a terrible burden for our daughters to bear—to know that if they choose to become mothers, this will be their fate, too. Because if we show them that being a martyr is the highest form of love, that is what they will become. They will feel obligated to love as well as their mothers loved, after all. They will believe they have permission to live only as fully as their mothers allowed themselves to live.

I now realise that as a mother I’m like a compass.

I lead my family in the direction of their own wellbeing.

Once I realised I had to step into my personal power and be the leader of my family’s wellbeing, things started to shift.

I began to realise that the greatest burden I can place on my children is the dissatisfaction in my role as a woman, with all the competing demands I have on my life.  At this point, I knew things had to change.

That’s why I’ve made it my life and work’s mission to understand how I can thrive. The information I’ve learnt along this journey is something I want to share with other women too.

If you’d like to become the leader in your and your family’s wellbeing you’re going to want to join me for a free masterclass that I’m running –

Success Without Sacrifice  High-Performance Success Strategies For Career-Driven Women Who Want To Thrive In Work *and* Life

In this FREE masterclass, I’ll share with you a practical and evidence-based approach to how you can thrive in your career and personal life without sacrificing your sanity or wellbeing.

I’m sharing:

1 – Your risk of burnout

You’ll learn the research behind why women are at more risk of burnout than at any other time in history

2 – The six domains of wellbeing

You’ll learn six simple but powerful factors that drive wellbeing for professional women in their personal and professional lives

3 – Your personal wellbeing formula

You’ll gain insights into your own wellbeing profile so you can understand your specific wellbeing resources and liabilities.  Empowering you with your own wellbeing action plan

You can join me for this free masterclass by registering over at 

Would love to see you there.

Here’s to us being the leaders in our family that we’re meant to be.


We’re genuine, like-minded women, just like you!

We’re a community, reinventing how we combine work and motherhood without sacrificing our sanity and wellbeing.



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